Yesterday, a good friend of mine admitted the real reason why he was in a hurry to marry his girlfriend: he got her pregnant. So, when she walks down the aisle on their wedding day next month, she would be three months pregnant. Once more, revelers will change the lyrics of the traditional wedding march, “Here comes the bride, all dressed in white” with, “Here comes the bride; three months inside.”
I grew up at a time when premarital sex was frowned upon. Getting pregnant out of wedlock was regarded as a disgrace. My pastors were fearless in preaching against this, calling it as how the Bible labels it: fornication. It’s a bit different today. Statista reports that 28% of Filipinos say that premarital sex is acceptable and is not a moral issue. In the US and Spain, our former colonial masters, only 30% and 8%, respectively, consider premarital sex as unacceptable.
Is sex wrong? Not really. God, the creator, is himself the author of sex. However, he designed sex as an intimate expression of the union of a husband and his wife. His standards are clear:
Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge (Hebrews 13:4).
I do not wish to pontificate on this matter. I will not judge my friend who, by the way, is already experiencing a lot of guilt. But hear me out. If we wish to honor God in our lives, then let’s do what he says. His commands were given to protect us. Premarital sex and extra-marital sex might be enjoyable, but God knows that these cause harm to our character and to our relationships. Most importantly, it harms our relationship with God.
Will you trust God enough to give you the strength to obey him in this area? Will you seek to live a God-honoring life? Are your intentions clear?
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