Here is another marriage principle that I am recommending to husbands. This builds on the “Happy Wife, Happy Life” article that I posted last week. If you apply this principle, I guarantee that your personal stress levels will go down drastically. It sounds facetious but hear me out.
I have observed that most of the daily conflicts we have with our wives are petty. We argue about how we drive, the things we do (or leave undone) at home, her punctuality for appointments, your food choices, etc. We insist that we are always right. Our wives do the same too; they retort, “When are you ever right?” With this prideful attitude, we end up arguing all the time. And you wonder why there is much unhappiness in your marriage?
Husbands, I am not saying that you are to abdicate your leadership role in the marriage relationship. The Bible clearly states that “For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church” (Ephesians 5:23). Be the kind of leader that God wants you to be. However, being a leader does not mean that you are to be inconsiderate of your wife. Philippians 4:5 commands you:
“Let everyone see that you are considerate in all you do.“
If you are considerate, you will admit that:
- You do not have a monopoly of the Holy Spirit.
- You are not right all the time.
- You have blind spots.
- Your wife has been blessed tremendously with God-given practical wisdom.
Don’t sweat the small stuff. Don’t insist on being right all the time. Acknowledge your wife’s wisdom and do what she says. She’ll be happy when you do. You’ll be happy. Choose happiness. “Happy wife, happy life,” remember?
One more thing. Your motivation for “I’d rather be happy than right” must not simply be your own happiness. You follow this marriage principle as one way of obeying God’s command for you to be considerate. So, the real issue here is, how kind and gentle and considerate are you toward your wife? Dr. Richard Carlson said:
Choose to be kind over doing right and you’ll be right every time.
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