imageThis is a maxim that I would like to present to my fellow husbands for consideration. It’s short and easy to remember. You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to apply it. Say to yourself, “happy wife, happy life,” over and over again, every day. Soon enough, you will believe it and you will act on it. You’ll have a happy wife. Then you will have a happy life. Too simple? A few examples are in order.

  • You’re on vacation and your wife wants to buy some house decors that you think will exceed your airline’s luggage limit. Don’t stop her. Just smile and say, “happy wife, happy life.”
  • Your wife is gifted with a new smartphone (her third, actually) and she asks you to customize the phone settings, transfer all files and contacts from the old phone, and wants it done ASAP. Cancel all your appointments and just do it. Say to yourself, “happy wife, happy life.”
  • You’re so tired and want to take a nap but your wife wants to go to a coffee shop to talk about an upcoming event she’s in charge of. Drive her there, get your caffeine fix and declare, “happy wife, happy life.”

I’m sure you get the drift. My brothers-in-law agree with this and can list more examples. Consider what the apostle Paul said:

But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife… (‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭7‬:‭33‬ NIV)

You have to read the whole chapter in order to understand the context of this verse. But the principle remains: a married man is concerned about pleasing his wife. In other words, making his wife happy is one of the life goals of a husband. That sounds like “happy wife, happy life,” doesn’t it?

I know that there are those who disagree. They’ll say that this is self-serving behavior; that is, you make your wife happy only because you want to ensure your own happiness. Some will claim that this seemingly noble sense of self-sacrifice is actually deception, both to self and to your wife. Others warn that when your wife always gets what she wants, then you become unnecessary.

So, how do we intentionally make our wives happy without ending up like a doormat in our marriage relationship? How do we consistently please our wives and please our God at the same time?

I have some ideas but I want to solicit responses from you. Share your ideas in the comments section below. Wives, you’re also invited to give input.

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2 thoughts on “Happy Wife, Happy Life

  1. Lloyd, you are funny. I laughed my way through your examples. Maybe you also could have called it, “Yes, Dear.” I am reading The Meaning of Marriage by Tim Keller right now. It is very helpful. Also, I think some secrets to a happy marriage, (that takes continual effort of course) are in Ephesians 5. Both husband and wife have tall orders in the Lord, that only He can help us fulfill: Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her; Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord…and the wife must respect her husband.

  2. Just as “Happy wife, Happy life” is the mantra for husbands, I think the mantra for wives needs to be “Respect husband, happy life” – not as catchy but just as true. Maybe you could make a catchy mantra for wives to think?

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