That basically summed up what Simon (not his real name) wanted to tell me. I don’t know what triggered his bout of loneliness a few days ago but it seems that recently there are just so many lonely people around me. What was alarming is Simon’s confession that he didn’t have true friends; this in spite of the fact that he is an active member of a local Christian church.
- Well, apparently it is possible to be a member of a civic club, a soccer team, or even a church and still have no friends.
- It is even possible to have 1,500 Facebook friends and still have no friends.
- It is also possible to have 200 Twitter followers and still have no friends.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
My counsel to Simon was simple: be a friend. Take the initiative in building relationships with a few men in school. Go deeper than the friendships that social networking provides. Spend time with these men. Get to know them. Listen to their stories. Be open and let them know you too. Pray with them and for them. The apostle Paul gave good advice on this matter:
“Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts” (2 Timothy 2:22b NLT).
Paul gave this advice not simply to ensure Timothy won’t get lonely. He told Timothy to build solid friendships that would help him pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. At the end of the day, friendships give us much more than a cure for the blues. They give us a community within which we, individually and corporately, could accomplish the purposes of God.
So, here is one advice on living intentionally for God: be a good and godly friend.
I am trying to be such to Simon.